Saturday, April 4, 2009

Family situation update!

Everyone get ready, this will be a long story, but will try to give you the highlights mostly! Be warned! LOL!
Okay, my son's gf is in jail on possession with intent and uttering and forging charges. They are both recovering heroin/pill addicts. My son has been clean for over a year now (thank the good Lord) and she has only recently been clean (since January when she was arrested)
On Wednesday, my son came home from work and I could tell he was totally freaking out. I made him come up here and made him talk. Turns out his gf is pregnant! Not only pregnant but is due in May! Oooh boy! My first response I won't type here, but you can probably imagine what I said! Then I got my head on straight so I could think calmly and clearly.
That reason explained why he has been so adamant about getting her out early on home confinement.
He had gotten an apartment for them, but he discovered (Wed) that the deposits for the water and electric would be about $600 all total. Now he just works at a fast food place right now and of course he doesn't make that kind of money in one paycheck! We could not afford to help me $$ wise since dh still hasn't found a job yet.
I asked my dd to help, because I knew she had the money in her savings account because she had been going to use it for a down payment on a newer car (her car died of transmission failure). But she said she "couldn't afford it" (boy is she like my mother, it's really freaky!!!)
So, I was trying to think of a way to help him and her and so I swallowed my pride (gulp) and called my mom to see if she could help. This meant I had to listen to a 20 minute lecture about him and his issues. Fun, fun, fun!
About 15 minutes later, dd comes into the room and says she has an idea. She is willing to move to my mother's for a few months so ds and gf (soon to be dil) can live in her room while they save money for a better place and while she is pregnant and after she has the baby.
Of course, dh was totally against it!! He doesn't like the gf and really doesn't care about her at all! I have trust issues with her because of her addiction, but I don't want to see my grandchild born in jail either. So I told dh HE would have to tell our son no. When our son came back home (from looking at a cheaper apartment) dh, me and ds all sat down and talked. Dh said it would be okay for her to move her and let home confinement monitor her. I knew he would, because he doesn't want to be the "mean" one! Isn't that just like a man?
So, now all son has to do is install a landline phone and then she goes in front of judge and she will be released to our house.

Best part of all..... I am finally going to have a grandDAUGHTER!!! Yippee! I'm over the moon about that one! I have always wanted another daughter, but that didn't happen, so I have been hoping and praying I would get a gd sometime and now I am! I can't wait!

Son's gf broke down in sobs when son told her we were willing to accept her here and make her a bigger part of the family. Her family is all psychos! Her own mother doesn't even want to know the sex of the baby! Won't visit her, talk to her, write letters, answer letters, etc etc etc!! That is unreal to me! Her dad (while still strange) at least has been visiting her and talking to her.

So, we are trying to get everything ready for HC people to come out and inspect the house and make sure it is not like a crack house and dope heads and alcoholics live here! That means, yuck city here, I am going to have to really clean the house up! I don't want thme to think this place is a dump! Which it is right now since I cannot seem to get the kids to pick up anything!

So, that is the concised version of my past week! What time!

4 comments:

Meg said...

Oh, Jean -- lots and lots of hugs! As if the drama of last month weren't enough...

Good thing you have your stitching to keep you sane!

Andie said...

Hiya :D *big hugs* and Congratulations! Thats going to be a big change for everyone and I admire your willingness to do this for your son and grand daughter! I hope things work out with DSGF!

Edy said...

Hang in there...All will work out in the end.
Perhaps your ds's gf will learn to do something with her hands now that she's going to have a baby...be patient and see if she is willing to learn to stitch too.

Dawn said...

Oh Jean,
Good on you, I know it can be hard at times such as these. I have been there with my eldest son, and his now GF, although she wasn't the nightmare, son was. They only need a chance to be shown the "right way".I do hope that everything works out well for you all. Our situation did, and things have changed now that GS has arrived. They have all gone to live with her DM & DD.

Hugs,